Did you know that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with?
In today’s show you will learn steps that will help you distance yourself from toxic people and move on with your life.
Studies have shown that 95% of your success in life depends on the people you hang out with more; they are the one who influence you the most. The Bible says: 1 Corinthians 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
They can influence the way we talk, dress, act and even the decisions that we make. We change as we grow in life, our thought process will expend, or personalities will mature and our view on life will change and improve over time. If our friends are not growing with us, the friendship will start deteriorating. We will start taking separate paths and have different values and sometimes those friends will need to go.
There are other times where our friends change for the worse and its then when we need to do a deep cleanse of friends in order to continue achieving our dreams. We can’t allow them to hold us back.
Now, understanding the impact that the people we hang out with have in our lives and knowing how much they can affect and influence the success of our future, should be motivational enough to make the decision to get rid of those toxic relationships. It is up to us to decide whom we hang out with and decide if they are bringing us down the right path or not.
Negative and toxic people tend to bring our dreams down and are not big supporters of our success. So you have two options:
- Continue the friendships. You can do this by being positive around them all the time, be a good influencer and a great steward of their dreams. In other words, influence their lives in a positive way instead of allowing them to influence yours in a negative way. If this is not possible, you have option two:
- Distance yourself from them; this should be after you have exhausted the avenue of influencing them in a positive way. If you choose this path here are some tips to help you with the process:
Make a List
Make a list of all your friends and influencers in your life and start thinking about the type of relationship you have with each them. Are you building each other in a positive way? Are you being stewards of each other’s dreams? Do you feel they bring out the best in you? This list will help you ensure that the person (or people) you are planning to distance yourself from are indeed a bad influence in your life. At this point you are not being selfish since you have tried your very best to influence in them in a positive way without seeing an improvement on their part. Once the list is complete and the questions have been answered, it’s time for the next step.
Don’t hesitate any more and start distancing yourself from that harmful relationship! The best way to do it is little by little. If you used to hang out with that person an hour every day, start cutting the time and now hang out for 30 minutes then 15 then say you are too busy with school or work and little by little remove them from your life. It will be less painful for them and yourself to do it this way, plus this will minimize harming the relationship. You don’t need to end the relationship on bad terms; you are just distancing yourself from them to open room to new friends that will help you build the type of life you want to live.
Find a New Verizon
Start looking for those type of friends that excite you, that help you bring the best out in you that are living the type of life that you want to live. Become their friend and exchange ideas and help each other grow. With time, you will be able to find the kind of friends that will help you grow in life. While I was in the process to find those kinds of friends for myself, I had tons of virtual friends. I relied on books, podcasts and great YouTube influencers that helped me shape the way I wanted to be.
You can also connect with the community here at Diana Bryant TV. We all support each other and love seeing each other grow. So connect in the comments with each other and start building those awesome relationships that can help you grow!
If that toxic relationship is someone you cannot get rid of, such as a close family member, then the best thing you can do is set up boundaries. Try to see them with compassion and to influence them in a positive way as much as you can and get busy chasing your dreams, with school or work so you don’t have to spend too much time with them.
Always remember that a toxic relationship sucks the life out of you and that you will need to surround yourself with people that support your values, dreams and help you grow!
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Now you all beautiful ladies, stay motivated to live the life of your dreams and become the happiest woman you know.
I’ll see you next week on Diana Bryant TV.
I dare you to dream big!